A letter to all Mistresses by Mamuzo Ogbeta Nwokoro (picture above). You'll be doing yourself a great favour by reading this letter line after line to the end. I'm short of words to describe the unbiased and matured presentation of her views. Have a good read after the cut and for once I ask you to please share this information with others. There are many more people it could help reform.
You must be lonely seeing how you
want to befriend another woman’s man. I understand that you are desperate for
love or maybe wealth but do not let your cravings push you into
Can I point to you that true
happiness cannot be gotten from chasing men using the instrumentality of your
‘feminine-hood.’ Men who make time to lie with you spend the time to keep their
daughters from the path you are treading. Isn’t it a sheer waste of time trying
hard to win the heart of a man that is already taken by a wife or children who
you will forever be in competition with? Even if you succeed in casting a spell
on him and make him lose the taste for her, his true love will never be you.
Truth is, men may be weak sexually but do not underestimate their strength in
searching for true value which for them is a greater adventure than the
temporal ecstasy you bring.
Do you know that the efforts you
make in stripping yourself to entice him are far more than the efforts you
require to wait for your own God given man? Have you counted the cost of making
more enemies than your slender shoulders can possibly bear and what about the
repercussion of breaking God’s divine order?
Have you considered that while you are preoccupied scheming to get his
attention and affection, you become oblivious of the one who should be yours?
Time is passing. Time never waits. Soon you will be left alone, all by yourself
to face the cold, tough world. No one to call you ‘Mine’, or ‘Mummy’, only
bittersweet memories of a love that you sought in the wrong place. Perhaps, you
succeeded in bearing his fruits and maybe forced your way to take a seat in his
home but your heart will constantly remind you, you only stole the spot you do
not own it.
You are a pretty woman and maybe smart too but touting this path will only give
you at best, second place. Why put your life to waste when you can be more and
better too. Think about how you are silently consumed by the fear of losing,
the fear that keeps overriding your hope for a secure future.
Let the woman in you rise. You have hidden your real beauty and grace under the
cloak of desperation for too long. Tear off the façade and wear the smile that
reveals your charm. Show off your gentility, your diligence and patience. Let
go of the booty and place premium value on your body. Respect your body - Adorn
yourself with fine decent clothing. Let your style be elegant because you are
nothing less of a DIVA.
Put your hands to work, put your work in your head. Take charge of your
emotions and become the CEO of your cravings. - If you go for everything you
crave for, your cravings will become the driver of your life.
You deserve to be respected, loved and cared for but you have to present
yourself respectable, loveable and worthy of titivation. You can be complete in
yourself. You do not have to find completeness in a man. Your whole self is to
complement a whole man. Never make the mistake of building your personality
around a man. Develop your persona so that you can rub off your shine on your
man when he does find you and when you do know that he is the one who is worth
every second of your wait.
Get busy polishing your potentials, reawakening those lost passions and dreams
and begin digging deeper into yourself so you can find the momentum to live the
beautiful dreams you once had. Live life to the fullest with the utmost contentment
of the things you have knowing that the things you want will come to you in the
nick of time.
Love you, truly love you and patiently wait for true love in the right place
with the right person.